It is with heavy hearts that we share the passing of Brian Daniel Lahaie. Bri was born on August 25, 1977 and passed on peacefully in the wee hours of March 26, 2019, his partner Mira by his side and his favourite tunes playing on the stereo. Brian’s family will miss him tremendously – his life partner and soul mate Mira Etlin-Stein and their daughter Davida, his mother Tuula Lahaie (Makela), brother Trevor Lahaie, in-laws Shari Stein and David Etlin, sister-in-law Hannah Etlin-Stein, brother-in-law Luke Denison, as well as numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, dear friends, and countless members of the Toronto music community. Brian was predeceased by his loving father Roger Lahaie, who he looked up to as a mentor and a role model. Brian was born in North Bay and grew up in Lively Ontario – a sweet and smiling child who woke up singing every morning, just as Davida does now. Brian started playing music in and around Sudbury as a teenager. He became a busy and much sought after musician in Toronto after moving to the city to attend the Universityof Toronto. For the past two decades as a drummer and a producer, Brian worked with countless artists in Toronto and across Canada, touring around Europe, and bringing joy, laughter, and lightness wherever he landed. Brian’s face lit up anytime he spoke about his beloved Cabbagetown studio, where many musicians were lucky enough to work with him. Seven years ago, Brian and Mira locked eyes across a busy dance floor. As he always said, with a twinkle in his eye, “it was love at first sight”. Brian brought an open, deep love into Mira’s universe, filling her life with a newfound appreciation for the simple things, which Brian made magical. Brian and Mira’s love was deep and pure, and they complimented each other perfectly as a couple, filling in each other’s gaps, one moving forward where the other faltered. When Davida was born, their sacred triad was completed. Brian loved being a father and little D was his greatest joy. He was a natural dad from the very first moment and Davida adored him. Bri loved simplicity, slowness, taking in each moment, good conversations, healthy debate, strong coffee and health food, and was always eager to learn and grow, to become a better person. Bri loved nature and was his freest self when running wildly through the bush, breathing in fresh air, or dancing in the sauna. He was building a log cabin, deep in the woods – using only hand tools because he understood the wisdom in the process as opposed to just the product. Brian lived his life authentically, connecting easily with strangers and leaving a strong impression on everyone he met. We will miss his sweet smile and his gentle laugh. We have lost a truly special soul. Please join us in honouring Brian on Monday April 1, 2019 at 11:00 AM. Ceremony to be held in the Bloor Street United Church/ City Shul. 300 Bloor Street West, Toronto, Ontario. Simple luncheon to follow. In honour of Bri, please come as your authentic self and wear whatever you would be most comfortable in. If you would like, please bring a letter, message, photo, or something special to add to a memorial book for Davida. Brian’s loving friends and colleagues have launched a campaign to help support Mira and Davida, as well as towards Davida’s future care and education:



April 01, 2019
Bloor Street United Church/City Shul
11:00 AM

Memorial lucheon to follow.

Burial / Entombment / Cremation


April 01, 2019
So incredibly shocked and sad to hear the news of his passing. Brian was my drum teacher and although I never practiced (difficult at the age of 46 with all of else in life going on), I really enjoyed my time with him. He was very patient and understood my situation, so we would often chat about music and he would tell me enthusiastically about drummers and drumming. I recently lost my father to cancer in November of last year, and Brian was very sympathetic. I am so sad to hear of this loss and my thoughts and prayers are with his family and loved ones.
March 31, 2019
Karen and Doug Hibovski
Dear Mira We are so utterly saddened by this news. Brian is such a gentle soul. He was always kind and patient with all his students. He was so thrilled about his little girl and always talked about her with such joy on his face. We will miss him and the world is now missing a great soul. Karen and Doug Hibovski Bloor West Music Studios
March 31, 2019
Elissa & Spenser
Dear Mira, our heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family, with love.
March 30, 2019
Marcia Rioux and Ezra Zubrow
Our hearts and thoughts are with you
March 30, 2019
Lisa Rubic ( Gutjahr)
I went to Jessie Hamilton P.S with Brian and also a semister at Sudbury Secondary in the Performing Arts program. I still remember his first few drum performances in elementry band class and in the basement of his childhood home. I was fortunate enough to have a final encounter and quick chat with him many winter nights ago at the Huddle in Lively. He was a very kind and talented soul. RIP Brian, my thoughts are with your many friends and family members at this difficult time.
March 29, 2019
Joanne Naiman
Mira — Neil and i were just heartbroken to receive a note from your mother recently re Bri’s declining health. Unfortunately, now that we live in Vancouver we will be unable to attend his memorial. We send our sympathies and big hugs from afar.
March 29, 2019
Liv Mendelsohn (and MNjcc family)
Mira, our hearts are with you. We are here to support you and Davida now and in the future.
March 28, 2019
Dear Mira, My heartfelt condolences at the loss of your dear Bri. I only met him a few times but he always seemed to be a quiet, gentle soul. I know that Davida will make him proud and carry on his legacy into the future.
March 28, 2019
Peter Wilura
I knew Brian in high school and he was always a really happy and positive guy. While I didn't know him well, I'm glad to say that the times we interacted were happy ones. My condolences to his family. RIP, Brian.