In the month after a funeral, it is customary to send thank you notes to friends and family who have served as pallbearers, made memorial donations, or sent flowers, mass cards, food or other condolence gifts.

You can order acknowledgement cards through your funeral director. Short personal notes can be written on the acknowledgement cards.

People tell us they sometimes find it hard to come up with the appropriate words for these thank you notes. Just a few lines are all that is needed to show that you and the family appreciate the kindness that has been shown you. Here are a few phrases to help in writing your notes:

Thank you for the beautiful roses. The arrangement was lovely.

The food you sent was so enjoyed by our family. Your kindness is deeply appreciated.

Mom and I were so glad you were able to get to town for the funeral. Having you there made a hard time easier to bear.

Dad would have appreciated your donation to the Cancer Society. Mom and I thank you for your generosity.